Rewiring our thoughts

We hear time and time again that our brains are plastic and can be changed/molded/altered at any stage. We are the only ones in charge of this. And by constantly repeating certain movments, thinking certain thoughts, spending time with certain people etc- our brains begin to be molded. You don’t have to spend too long with someone to start using their mannerisms, speaking the way that they speak etc. It’s incredible really.

When we think to ourselves, ‘I’m broke’, ‘I don’t have enough money’… how do we feel after that thought? Far from wealthy.

What about when we tell ourselves, ‘I’m unintelligent’, how do we feel… not smart thats for sure.

It’s pretty insane the impact that these daily thoughts have on us over our lifespan. This is why I truly think if you’re spending time with people that are contantly picking at your flaws, we start to believe them, even when they weren’t something that we were insecure about in the first place! Our thoughts have SO much control.

I remember being an 18y/o and looking in the mirror, thinking to myself ‘I’m just a bigger girl, its the way I am, I accept it’ thinking back to this it makes me SO SAD. Firstly it was so untrue, secondly I wonder if this was I statement I came up with or if it was almost offered to me when I was younger. Thirdly, self pity does nothing for us. I was absolutely not super over weight anyway, chubby sure. But what even is chubby, what is a bigger girl? Labels get us no where. Drinking too many sugary alcoholic beverages, over indulging all too often, big portions, very rarely moving my body is probably why I felt the way I did. I wasn’t doing anything to make myself feel like a healthy human being- thats for sure.

When you make it an effort to meal prep, eat colourful foods and stay hydrated, you become someone that cares about what you put in your body

When you make the effort to go for a run, you become a runner

When you start to pick up a book before bed and read a few pages, you become a reader

Tell yourselves these things. Celebrate them.

‘We are what we eat, the company we keep + the thoughts we think’… πŸ™‚

Lets catch ourselves out next time we have something unconstructive to say about overselves, because hey, this is something we all struggle with! Catch you self doubt.

Loooooove. To a wonderful week. Tully x

Lets talk about satisfaction

We hear it all of the time, I’ll be happy when… When is when? I think its great to have goals to strive for but once we achieve these goals they really do only provide momentary bliss- then we’re onto the next… We’ve all been here and sometimes I catch myself thinking these thoughts and I nip them in the bud ASAP. Life shouldn’t be about yearning for something to happen or waiting until the day that we’ve finished this project, got that promotion or bought the car we’ve always wanted. We all know we’ll be craving something ELSE as soon as the honeymoon period of this accomplishment subsides.

How about we all just appreciate where we are. Who we are. We’re doing our best. And if we aren’t 100%, whole heartedly where we want to be in our lives right now- it’s okay. Whats to say we cant appreciate right now? Life is still good. We are living and breathing and hopefully we all have loved ones surrounding us. Life could be alot worse!

Lets keep chipping away and carving our paths. We’ll get to where we want to be, who we want to be there with and what we want to be doing with our time. Lets do more of the things we love, relish in our hobbies, spend more time outside and disconnecting from social media. And just be present. Because now is the moment that never ends. And we’ll never get this time back. Life is wonderful. Lets appreciate what we have, right here, right now πŸ™‚

Until next week x

30 Day minimalism challenge

I saw this challenge on google and thought ‘this is so up my alley’. There is basically one challenge per day that barely takes 5 minutes. A really productive start to the day and is a push to get those little jobs done that we never get around to.

  1. Purge your wardrobe

I love this one, and a perfect start! Even if its three clothing items- take them to your local thrift shop. Not only your wardrobe will be clearer but also your mind!

2. Clean your handbag

I liked this one too as I never get around to it. I even washed my bag. Felt really organised going to work the next day!

3. Toss out old socks

I LOVED this one too, why do we keep socks for such a long time? I threw a few pairs out and treated myself with 3x new, much better quality pairs! Wooohoo

4. Get rid of digital devices

I don’t understand the root of this question but what I took from this was… a day without social media. I’m already pretty disciplined as I wouldn’t say im constantly on my phone anyway and rarely sleep with my phone in my room. But this felt good.

5. Empty your wallet

This could also have a few possible meanings. I cleaned mine out and got rid of old cards. But it could also mean donate. I am going to donate $5 to Livin’ now πŸ™‚

6. Write your best friends qualities

I wrote down my partners best qualities and it probably made me happier than it made him but its really cool to see what you love most about someone on paper

7. Write your best qualities

It’s funny that we struggle to compliment ourselves. A few things I appreciate about myself: I am a great friend, I am an optimist, I love that I care for our environment, I have good self discipline and I love my teeth and my smile(thx mum and dad :))

8. Write for 20 minutes

This was super lovely in the morning, whether its mumbo jumbo/ the spelling is incorrect it doesn’t matter because NO ONE is going to read it. I’d love to start a dream journal, maybe I’ll keep one beside my bed and attempt to write when I have wild dreams!

9. Donate old books

I love book swapping and donating old books. I wouldn’t often re-read a book so why not pass our favourite reads on πŸ™‚

10. Ditch makeup for the day

Woohoo I love this. I wouldn’t often wear makeup when im not working but I would have stuggled with this years ago. I am now so much more comfortable in my own skin and that feels really powerful.

11. Meditate on your day

This day I went to a sound healing! It was auch an incredible experience. I have been working on my meditation parctice and it sure has paid off- being able to lay in a dark room for an hour! Highly recommend sound healings. The instruments sound amazing, I felt super rejuvinated and slept very well.

12. Spend time with loved ones

I’d like to think I do this daily/ when I have the chance but I made extra effort to call a few family members on this day. Life is all about the people we surround ourselves with and I feel SO lucky with my chosen ones <3

13. Write a gratitude log

Once again, I’d say I practice this daily but for today I wrote what I was grateful for and WHY. I chose matcha: lucky to have an alternitave that I enjoy other than coffee. My bed: it is so comfortable and makes me feel at home, and my family: lucky to be related to such loving, friendly and genuine people!

14. Evaluate your last 5 purchases

This was a cool activity. Doing this weekly would reduce a few spendings I think. Mine were: groceries, wine, a power bill, 2x festival tickets and a DiDi….. can you tell which were wants and which were needs, lol……

15. Stay offline for the day

Turned my phone off! Felt damn good. Should even start doing this 1 day per week

16. Don’t spend money for 24 hours

This felt great! Didn’t struggle at all. Would love to have a few days like this every week

17. Don’t complain all day

I attempted this over two days and tried to be really concious of my wording. I think this is a great thing to remind ourselves every morning!

18. Go without your phone

Turned my phone off for the day/ have been leaving it at home more. We’ve just gone into a three day lockdown so i’m going to have another phone free day during this time πŸ™‚

19. Venture outdoors

Went on a hike with a friend! Never regret getting outside

20. Create a relaxing space

This day I put lavender my diffuser, cleaned my room and had a chill yoga sesh. So relaxing after work.

21. Re-evalute your to do list

Priorotised what is most important, and always get these things done first thing

22. De-clutter your storage

Can’t say I have alot to store, but cleaned out my wardrobe- again will be tackling a few cupboads over these next few days

23. Empty your junk drawer

Did this, why do we all have atleast one of these? How many pens does a person need?

24. Turn off notifications

I don’t have any anyway, woo.

25. Batch cook your meals

I had a Sunday bake day. I made a dhal, zuchinni and lemon loaf, granola and bliss balls. Feels good to have healthy snacks in the fridge.

26. Get all your errands done today

Got a few things done I’d been putting off- went to bed feeling super satisfied this day

27. Eliminate a toxic relationship

I honestly can’t say I have any toxic friends/relationships- and this makes me happy πŸ™‚

28. Clear out your makeup collection

I did this with all of my bathroom cabinet, and it felt very refreshing!

29. Say no to something

I’ve been saying no to everything I don’t want to do this year πŸ™‚ and it feels amazing

30. Re-purge your wardrobe

Done and done, with pleasure

Meditation as your medication

We all stuggle to meditate right at the very beginning and unless you were a monk in the womb, you’ve probably found meditating time consuming, ‘boring’ and difficult. Here are my top tips for really putting in the effort and making the most of those 5-10 minutes of pure bliss.

Airpods/headphones

These will really help too tune into a guided meditation and block out any outside noise. If you’re like me and you live in a city- you’ll need some head phones. Amps up the experience 100%.

YouTube

Youtube has it all. I love Bob Baker and Jason Stephenson. Both have soft, soothing voices and shorter videos which is less intimidating as you are starting out. Their voices make me really happy.

A blanket/comfortable clothes

Wrap anything you like around you. Sit on your couch, bedroom floor etc and just get comfortable. Whatever floats your boat- works.

Diffuse or put on something that smells good/relaxes you

If some peppermint or lavender oil on your body lets you know its time to slow down/meditate- do that

Attempt to practice first thing in the morning

This is a major one. If we leave this until later in the day, I personally find that post looking at screens/ being at work I have so much more on my mind and it’s alot harder to detach these thoughts. The less stimulated we are when we first sit down to make the most of being in the moment- the better.

It’s a journey thats for sure. No one is perfect or a professional. But there are so many scientifically proven benefits to meditating daily, no matter how small. Reading is also great for practicing to be in the moment.

These blogs are so spiratic these days, thanks for sticking with me πŸ™‚ to a wonderful week. Tully x

Travel is a teacher

I wrote a touch note to a friend the other day, and I sent a couple of photos of her and I in the back on a crammed mini bus in Central America 4 years ago. I remember it being SO uncomfortable. The aircon didnt work, so it was a very sticky 13 hour bus ride. Majority of the 10 passengers were also European or spoke Spanish, which kind of annoyed me too(shouldn’t have)- not being able to converse with anyone, but I still had my friend! I just remember thinking it was torture… oh how dramatic we can be in the moment! What I’d give to have one of those experiences this year, as I know none of us will be having them for quite sometime.

Things, feelings and situations always seem so much more hightened while we are going through them. And it makes sense. Nothing seems ‘worse’ at the time, but oh…. there will always be so much worse.

Something to take with us the next time we lose a job, go through a pandamic, end a friendship or persperate in the back of a bus in another country. Our minds really are so much tougher than we realise. It’s hard not to over dramatise situations, but it’s something to work on.

Hope everyone has a wonderful Thursday!

PS: the featured image on this post is from this morning, how bloody gorgeous! What a way to wake up.

“Smooth sea’s do not make skillful sailors”

Heck no they don’t. I was talking to a client recently that had lost her mum- and we basically got onto the topic of these dark times bettering us(eventually). Going through these horrible and tragic times and making us better people in the long run. There is so much truth and benefit to this even when we generally don’t realize at the time. When these unexpected, tough times happen; 9 times out of 10 we grow from them. And that results in being able to comfort other humans when they are experiencing something we have previously experienced- which is a beautiful thing in itself. What a wonderful skill to know fully(debatable) how the person talking to you is feeling. Light at the end of the tunnel, if you are going through something tricky right now, you’ll most likely really help out a friend of yours one day… πŸ™‚

To a wonderful first week of March x

7 Mood boosting morning habits

Implementing good daily habits into my routine have been an absolute savor for me during this slow/uncertain/semi-unemployed year. There are so many things that can make or break our day and starting our day ‘right’ makes a massive difference on our moods and productivity! Keep reading to find out 7 of the most beneficial daily habits for a twenty something gal-

  1. GRATITUDE JOURNAL

Being able to actually write down things that we are grateful for rather than just silently going over them in our heads makes a massive difference. When I write out my list in the mornings, (sometimes I will be grateful for 3 things and other times 20- depending on how I’m feeling). I feel a weight off my chest straight away, I just feel so happy automatically that I’m able to list things like “the sun on my skin”, “a bed to wake up in and make”, “a roof over my head”, “how loving and supportive my partner is”, “how lucky I am to have my parents around and the relationship I have with them”, “that I am able to pay my own rent”, “to have access to clean drinking water, all day everyday” etc… once you get writing, the list really can go on for ever. A massive mental health hack is keeping one of these babies and expressing yourself if you ask me!

2. YOGA

Can safely say yoga has changed my life. The breathwork, the movement and mindfulness of it all does WONDERS for our bodies and most importantly, brains. I have just started my 200HR YYT whoop whoop, so this has been keeping me busy also which is an absolute blessing and a half! Whether its 5 minutes in the morning or 50, it is all so beneficial. The mat is such a happy, positive place to be. Youtube videos like Yoga with Adriene(everyone has heard of this queen) are super helpful if you’re lacking inspo that day! Even putting some mellow music on Spotify and having a stretch feels so so good! Can’t speak highly enough of this beautiful practice.

3. MEDITATION

There is a reason that we hear so much of meditation and that’s because it is such a useful tool. I would love to say that I meditate everyday, but to be honest i struggle. I have recently set a goal for myself to meditate for 5 mins on my made bed when I wake up in the mornings. It is something I have to work on but the thought is there and I have intentions to gradually increase my timeframe as I become more familiar/comfortable with the practice! Happy people meditate. Mindset and perspective are everything.

4. BODY MOVIN’

Exercise is an absolute gem when it comes to boosting our moods. There is nothing quite like the post workout high. I must admit some days are SO MUCH HARDER than others. But I get it done and feel proud of myself for it. I generally do a 30minute HIIT/Pilates/Strength workout in the mornings that I have written up myself or again, YouTube! Kayla Itsines and Pamela Reif are great accounts for quick body weight workouts! If you have the space for a yoga mat you really can workout anywhere- no excuses. Your body and mind will thank you for it.

5. CALL SOMEONE YOU LOVE

This is another super important habit to get into. This year we need to be keeping in contact with our loved ones more than ever! It can be a friend you haven’ spoken to in ages or a sibling/parent. Call them, check in and tell them that you love them. Human connection is the most important thing there is, and again- so favorable for our mental health to have a vent/laugh/much needed conversation.

6. READ A FEW PAGES

I really feel like when I read I learn a lot. It can be a few pages or a chapter(I try to read a chapter a day). It can take our minds off unnecessary things, its time consuming and good for our brains. This can be something that you do waking up with your morning coffee or even taking a book to a nearby park. It really is a relaxing ‘habit’ that slows us down.

7. A WALK AND A PODCAST A DAY

Find a podcast that you really enjoy, I like My millennial money, Happy hour, KIC, Oprah and Do you F**king mind as I feel as though they are uplifting and informative. Podcasts also feel a bit like you’re having a conversation with a friend. Aim for half an hour a day(its so nice to get out of the house) Steps + sunshine + spontaneous learning = success.

“Create before you consume” is a quote I heard recently and I couldn’t vouch for it more! Instead of waking up and scrolling or putting on the news to get smashed by depressing media coverage at the very start of a fresh day- have a stretch, take in the sunrise on your balcony, read something, write in your journal, make yourself a nice drink and relax- take it all in, think positive thoughts and just how lucky you are to be here, another day alive and well! There isn’t much else we can ask for!

I have spoken about these habit trackers in a recent blog but a great way to stay on top of your good habits! Keep on fridge! Just google ‘habit tracker’