This is something I did when I was 20. Flew solo to Canada with a two year visa in hand and everything I owned in a pack- and its still one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I learned how to be independent and rely solely on myself. I learned that I could live off literally no money(but still had money to take a trip every couple months and party a few nights a week… how?!) I learned to put myself out there and start a conversation first because well- what do we have to lose right? And it also taught me how lucky I am to have the family I have. The distance definitely made me appreciate them more, which I needed at that time in my life. ‘Distance makes the heart grow fonder’. I am a firm believer that age is just a number BUT I do think that making a move like this is easier with zero ties/responsibilities/kids/mortgages. Very do-able in your early twenties! I also met my partner overseas that I am still with today. Moving abroad changed my life in many ways 🙂
2. Be a ‘yes’ person
This really can apply to anything. Say yes to taking time off work and going on that road trip. Say yes to a narcotic that you want to try. Say yes to trying a very strange food. We rarely regret saying ‘yes’. If anything as we age i think we’ll have regrets saying ‘no’ to wild and wonderful opportunities that are thrown our way.
3. Move your body
We probably over indulge in a number of guilty pleasures in our 20’s, as were still figuring out our bodies, our metabolisms are most likely at their peak and we also DGAF all that much. But MOVING whether its a workout/jog/walk/hike/swim in the ocean etc. is again something that we don’t and wont regret. As we get older our bodies tend to decline, so lets use this energy wisely now. We are so lucky to be young and healthy. Bounce and backflip around because I doubt we’ll be doing anything remotely active when we are in retirement homes.
4. Go skinny dipping
I hope that I’m skinny dipping when I’m 70. It’s thrilling and fun and feels so free! Our bodies aren’t getting any younger, so be proud of what you have now! Let yo freak flag fly.
5. Don’t overwork
I have been the queeeeen of working as little as possible the past five years. I’ve always made just enough to fund food, fun and flights. That’s all I’ve really desired up until the beautiful year of 2020, #teamnowork. But seriously- I don’t look back at my time and think ‘wow I wish I worked more’ heck no! We are going to be working all of our lives peeps. Absolutely choose exploring, meeting people, having boozy long lunches > doing overtime.
6. Tell your loved ones that youlove them
We can’t tell people enough how much we love and appreciate them. The limit does not exist!(Mean girls ;). When they’re gone, holding back our words and feelings is a regret we’ll have! When you love someone shout it from the damn rOoOoOfToPs. Tell your loved ones how you feel, compliment them and hug them. There is nothing more important than human connection and letting people know they are loved. Express yo’self.
This is definitely something we should all do once in our lives. Solo travel does wonders for our independence, self confidence and future friendships. You plan your OWN trip and do the activities YOU want to do. Personally I think there is nothing worse than travelling with someone you don’t travel well with(we’ve all been there), getting dragged around to places you’d rather not be(*cough* museums) or dealing with picky eaters that only want to eat at fast food restaurants we have at home, hell no.
To be honest I feel like most of us like the sound of this, but it is easier said than done. It can be intimidating meeting larger groups of people at hostels, because we are so much more comfortable when we are around humans we know. Makes total sense- but its time to get uncomfortable.
I’d suggest booking a flight, going to the airport and DOING IT because putting action towards these things are the best way to face our fears. But to build up some pre independent travel confidence:
Take yourself out for a meal- this can be daunting for sure but you’ll have to get used to this during your travels, so may as well start now. Bring a book or listen to a podcast(don’t be antisocial on your phone) while waiting for your food. Its a date with yourself. Its a positive thing and we really shouldn’t find this such a difficult thing to do.
Mutual friends- we all know someone that has a friend/cousin/uncle/school mate etc that lives in another country. Ask around, if you remember someone mentioning the country/area that you’re going to; pick their brains. There is a 99.9% chance they’ll know someone that you can meet up with while youre abroad. This offers you an instant friend and exploring these places with locals makes your trip so much more of a journey. Local insight is priceless. It makes them appreciate where they live even more, too.
Get advice from someone supportive- talk to a parent, sibling or friend that will install more confidence in you. Even better if you have someone around you that has made a simular move/decision. Don’t listen to people that will tell you its a bad idea, if its something you have your heart set on- do it. You’ve got this.
Befriend the person sitting next to you on the plane- this is a bit give or take but if you’ve struck up a conversation with a local you’ve hit the jackpot. It’s also funny how often you run into travellers that have been on the same plane as you. I’ve made some really good friends on flights.
SMILE- sounds slightly lame but we’re all attracted to happy people. If you look like your having a good time(which girllll, you will be) you’ll seem so much more approachable
Confidence is key- ‘fake it til you make it’ we’ve all heard 1000 times but very relevant motto in this circumstance. Wear what you want, go to the bars/markets/attractions you want to go to, start up conversations with random people. You most likely don’t know ANYONE in the country you’ve just arrived in. If there is a time to truly be yourself, its now 🙂
Moral of this blog, just go. Solo planned trips really have brought me some of my most wild and wonderful friends. Rely on yourself. I promise it’ll be eventful. You’ll be amazed how many more friends you’ll make along the way without the security blanket of your friendship group at home. You’ve got this.
I am currently ISO BORED so if anyone has any blog topic suggestions i’d love to hear them, time is not of the essence. Hope we’re all safe and doing things to benefit ourselves at this time. All my love x