Lets talk about satisfaction

We hear it all of the time, I’ll be happy when… When is when? I think its great to have goals to strive for but once we achieve these goals they really do only provide momentary bliss- then we’re onto the next… We’ve all been here and sometimes I catch myself thinking these thoughts and I nip them in the bud ASAP. Life shouldn’t be about yearning for something to happen or waiting until the day that we’ve finished this project, got that promotion or bought the car we’ve always wanted. We all know we’ll be craving something ELSE as soon as the honeymoon period of this accomplishment subsides.

How about we all just appreciate where we are. Who we are. We’re doing our best. And if we aren’t 100%, whole heartedly where we want to be in our lives right now- it’s okay. Whats to say we cant appreciate right now? Life is still good. We are living and breathing and hopefully we all have loved ones surrounding us. Life could be alot worse!

Lets keep chipping away and carving our paths. We’ll get to where we want to be, who we want to be there with and what we want to be doing with our time. Lets do more of the things we love, relish in our hobbies, spend more time outside and disconnecting from social media. And just be present. Because now is the moment that never ends. And we’ll never get this time back. Life is wonderful. Lets appreciate what we have, right here, right now πŸ™‚

Until next week x

The truth about your hairstylist

Having been in this industry for almost 10 years, something that I can absolutely confirm is- your hairstylist cares, alot!

I can’t say I’ve come across a collegue that doesn’t care about their work or their clients. In saying that though, It’s a tricky job and so many things are often overlooked. We need to be personable, have great communication skills, up to date technique, be able to basically read our clients minds in terms of the aesthetic outcome they are wanting- and these days that’s almost HARDER with all of the styled/edited/photoshopped hair inspiration photos that can be found on every social media platform! Yep, then we’re expected to recreate said look using the canvas infront of us. Hairdressing is a LOVE job. We hairdress because we thrive off human interaction and connection and because we want our clients to walk out feeling 1000 times more confident then when they first sat in our chair.

I don’t know anyone that hairdresses for the money. It’s not why we get into the line of work we do whatsoever. Hairstylists in Australia are still paid minimun wage, which is quite frankly fucked considering how much passion, love and hardwork goes into what we do. Everyday.

Your hairstylist doesn’t just care about you a lot, they think of you, a lot. The amount of times I think about my clients out of work. If I had a dollar… What recipe I’ll use on them next time, whether they were a hundred perfect happy with their last session etc… the list is endless! I feel like I think about my clients when I wake up and before I go to bed.

Your hairstylist cares, alot.

It annoys me when I hear people saying how expensive salons and the product they provide and educate their clients with, is. You get what you pay for. One more time for the people in the back. You get what you pay for. We spend alot of time with you and on you. Time is money. And once again, hairstylists aren’t on the best wages. So dont complain to us πŸ˜‰ On another note, hair is something that you wear- every.damn.day. It is with you 24/7. I personally take pride in the way I style my hair, as well as the health and integrity of it. Hair is important and we are so lucky to have it. Not to mention the opportunities to chop, change and care for our hair. We are also very lucky to have loving hairstylists all around the globe that care about our requests and appearances as much as we do. Don’t complain to your hairstylist about spending $300 on your hair every 10 weeks. We’ve all spent more money on dinner and cocktails with friends in a night- I sure have. What is the price you’d put on confidence?

It’s all well and good if you don’t see value in spending money on your hair, I don’t see value in purchasing a harley- so i’m not going to invest my money into one.

Don’t colour your hair at home. If you’re mixing two products together as you’re colouring your hair at home, it’s a permanent- and that shit is really hard to get out of your hair. If you take short cuts like this attemping to get a salon result, you wont… and then you’ll really appreciate your hairstylist πŸ™‚ but expect a heafty quote. Colour correction/removing colour from hair is a grueling, costly and lengthy process. Expect to pay for this.

Reminder: do not colour your hair at home πŸ™‚

Bottom line. Appreciate your hairstylist. We love our clients, dearly. We really are so lucky to build relationships with such beautiful and trusting human beings that we can catch up with every few months. Be open with your hairstylist, if you aren’t satisfied/would like something tweaked- just call us. We would so much rather make it perfect for you then to have you go elsewhere. Sometimes communication isn’t quite recieved, we’re only human- we’re doing our best!

Thank your hairstylist. Send them an email telling them how happy you are. Recommend them to your friends. Give them a google review. Give them a hug at Christmas time(if covid allows this).

Hairstylists care, a lot

Thank you for reading,

Yours truly, a loving hairstylist x

6 Tips for your early 20’s

  1. Relocate to the other side of the world

This is something I did when I was 20. Flew solo to Canada with a two year visa in hand and everything I owned in a pack- and its still one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I learned how to be independent and rely solely on myself. I learned that I could live off literally no money(but still had money to take a trip every couple months and party a few nights a week… how?!) I learned to put myself out there and start a conversation first because well- what do we have to lose right? And it also taught me how lucky I am to have the family I have. The distance definitely made me appreciate them more, which I needed at that time in my life. ‘Distance makes the heart grow fonder’. I am a firm believer that age is just a number BUT I do think that making a move like this is easier with zero ties/responsibilities/kids/mortgages. Very do-able in your early twenties! I also met my partner overseas that I am still with today. Moving abroad changed my life in many ways πŸ™‚

2. Be a ‘yes’ person

This really can apply to anything. Say yes to taking time off work and going on that road trip. Say yes to a narcotic that you want to try. Say yes to trying a very strange food. We rarely regret saying ‘yes’. If anything as we age i think we’ll have regrets saying ‘no’ to wild and wonderful opportunities that are thrown our way.

3. Move your body

We probably over indulge in a number of guilty pleasures in our 20’s, as were still figuring out our bodies, our metabolisms are most likely at their peak and we also DGAF all that much. But MOVING whether its a workout/jog/walk/hike/swim in the ocean etc. is again something that we don’t and wont regret. As we get older our bodies tend to decline, so lets use this energy wisely now. We are so lucky to be young and healthy. Bounce and backflip around because I doubt we’ll be doing anything remotely active when we are in retirement homes.

4. Go skinny dipping

I hope that I’m skinny dipping when I’m 70. It’s thrilling and fun and feels so free! Our bodies aren’t getting any younger, so be proud of what you have now! Let yo freak flag fly.

5. Don’t overwork

I have been the queeeeen of working as little as possible the past five years. I’ve always made just enough to fund food, fun and flights. That’s all I’ve really desired up until the beautiful year of 2020, #teamnowork. But seriously- I don’t look back at my time and think ‘wow I wish I worked more’ heck no! We are going to be working all of our lives peeps. Absolutely choose exploring, meeting people, having boozy long lunches > doing overtime.

6. Tell your loved ones that you love them

We can’t tell people enough how much we love and appreciate them. The limit does not exist!(Mean girls ;). When they’re gone, holding back our words and feelings is a regret we’ll have! When you love someone shout it from the damn rOoOoOfToPs. Tell your loved ones how you feel, compliment them and hug them. There is nothing more important than human connection and letting people know they are loved. Express yo’self.

7 Things I learned during dry July

31 days of zero booze. Considering what has been consumed during this Covid period this was probably harder than normal. Is there anything better than a red during winter? Ooooooh aren’t we so lucky to have alcohol. So enjoyable and such a good time(when consumed with discretion :p)

In saying all of that though, it has been a really good detox. Something I want to avoid is burning out too early in life. I feel pretty passionate about health at the moment. I really want to take care of my skin as it ages and keep my body as hydrated as possible. Its pretty amazing how adaptable and resilient our ‘homes’ are- they deserve to be looked after.

1. You realise who your supportive friends are

This is definitely true. Hola to those that donated and gave me praise. I hope I’ve never made any of my mates feel uncomfortable due to not drinking, saying no to a drink etc. And I’m absolutely going to be more cautious of this now!

2. Drinking is expensive

SO IS SOFT DRINK!!!??? Lol, but yes alcohol is for sure double the price. It was probably a blessing not drinking during July as I definitely didn’t work a whole lot. It is crazy what they can charge at pubs for softdrinks, $5.50 for a soda water… suuuuuure. Had one or two fizzy drinks then i’d jump on the waters. WooOOoOo rager. It’s pretty insane that a few hundred dollars can be spent over a weekend on the piss.

3. Better for skin health

For myself, absolutely. I felt hydrated the whole month and skin was noticeably more plump. Alcohol really encourages the rosacea on my undereye area and adds some heat to my skin as well. Sandpaper lips vibes after a late night drinking. None of that in July.

4. Fresh mornings

I don’t really think I get horrible hangovers anyway, but the alertness every morning during the month felt great. Also slept really well majority of the month. I for sure have more of a broken sleep/earlier mornings when I am on the drink.

5. Better food choices

I think I remember just about everything I ate during this past month. Alcohol absolutely encourages my appetite (hate going out without eating) so i’d normally be having a big dinner and coming home with pizza 5 hours later. Health. Wealth.

Consumed less(crap) for sure, so many calories in certain beverages also. But hey its worth it every now and then.

6. More active

I have been using a habit tracker the past few months and its been really helpful when it comes to staying on track. 100% was more active as well as productive in July compared to the month of June. Only had 4 ‘less active’ days in the whole month and that’s pretty damn good for me!

7. Drinking activities are F.U.N

So many things are more enjoyable with a drink on hand. Full stop. and was still happy to be in a social setting without a drink. My partner and I did this together and im so glad, would be really hard not give in without the support!

If you’re thinking about it, do It- but have someone to join you. Drinking is a really good time and a very ‘social’ hobby. But it was also reassuring to know I am comfortable in a drinking atmosphere sober. Apparently our cells renew every 4-6 weeks. How cool is that. Alcohol free cells/body after a month, it really is so refreshing to take sometime off every now and then. It doesn’t have to be July either! Everything in balance brings us best results. Just being more consistent with the healthier side of things majority of the time πŸ˜›

This little thing called life

Life is a wild ride. How many of us have looked up to our parents/people of age when we were younger and thought that ‘they have it all together’. Yeah right, none of us do. This seems to become so much clearer as we get older. Isn’t it funny we just assume with age we’ll ‘sort our lives out’. True to an extent, but I truly do believe we are constantly learning, growing, evolving and changing- and if we aren’t, surely we can’t be living correctly.

On the topic of age and growth, how’s the pressure as we mature? On both sexes. To buy property, have a mortgage, have a stable vehicle, be in a relationship and everything that comes with that(marriage, starting a family etc), oh and career- because every human on this earth will have the same job in the same field for 50 years… yeah right. I personally haven’t felt a crazy amount of pressure as my fam are the bee’s knees and so supportive. But I honestly dread the pressure and questions that are to come as the years pass. The pressure on women especially- to start a family before 30. In my mind 30 is SO YOUNG. 30 years of living(fingers crossed) isn’t even half of our lives!

When I think of purpose, being a mum really isn’t something that springs to mind. Mum’s are EASILY some of the most caring, unselfish, protective and nurturing people on earth; and they do such an unreal job. But I don’t think that is the only reason most females are earthbound. I do see the appeal, but I agree with most women that it ‘comes with age’. It takes so bloody long to figure ourselves out let alone understand our moral compass and values to want to pass on to tiny humans. But then again, when are we ever ready? When is the right time? At what ripe age will we ‘figure ourselves out’? Will we ever? Probably not, and that’s okay. We’re human. And figuring our shit out is all part of this journey.

I’ve found myself reconsidering the questions I ask people when I first meet them. ‘What do you do for work?’ is something that simply doesn’t matter all that much. This is generally something I’ll ask later on in the conversation if it comes up. I feel as though it can make us uncomfortable. Why is that? Why can we feel so un-proud when answering this? As if we were to think the person receiving the answer is about to stereotype or judge. When most of us love/have passion and experience/are really good at what we do! It’s mind boggling! I very rarely see people answer this question with confidence, myself included. I think we all need to change our perspective(+ how we answer this!) just slightly. We should be PROUD of our achievements! And work is one of them lol.

15 or 55, none of us have it entirely together + we can all learn something from one another. Lets reword the questions we ask.

DEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEP but food for thought. Could I have put any more question marks throughout this blog? Hehe. Have a lovely Thursday!