Rewiring our thoughts

We hear time and time again that our brains are plastic and can be changed/molded/altered at any stage. We are the only ones in charge of this. And by constantly repeating certain movments, thinking certain thoughts, spending time with certain people etc- our brains begin to be molded. You don’t have to spend too long with someone to start using their mannerisms, speaking the way that they speak etc. It’s incredible really.

When we think to ourselves, ‘I’m broke’, ‘I don’t have enough money’… how do we feel after that thought? Far from wealthy.

What about when we tell ourselves, ‘I’m unintelligent’, how do we feel… not smart thats for sure.

It’s pretty insane the impact that these daily thoughts have on us over our lifespan. This is why I truly think if you’re spending time with people that are contantly picking at your flaws, we start to believe them, even when they weren’t something that we were insecure about in the first place! Our thoughts have SO much control.

I remember being an 18y/o and looking in the mirror, thinking to myself ‘I’m just a bigger girl, its the way I am, I accept it’ thinking back to this it makes me SO SAD. Firstly it was so untrue, secondly I wonder if this was I statement I came up with or if it was almost offered to me when I was younger. Thirdly, self pity does nothing for us. I was absolutely not super over weight anyway, chubby sure. But what even is chubby, what is a bigger girl? Labels get us no where. Drinking too many sugary alcoholic beverages, over indulging all too often, big portions, very rarely moving my body is probably why I felt the way I did. I wasn’t doing anything to make myself feel like a healthy human being- thats for sure.

When you make it an effort to meal prep, eat colourful foods and stay hydrated, you become someone that cares about what you put in your body

When you make the effort to go for a run, you become a runner

When you start to pick up a book before bed and read a few pages, you become a reader

Tell yourselves these things. Celebrate them.

‘We are what we eat, the company we keep + the thoughts we think’… πŸ™‚

Lets catch ourselves out next time we have something unconstructive to say about overselves, because hey, this is something we all struggle with! Catch you self doubt.

Loooooove. To a wonderful week. Tully x

“Smooth sea’s do not make skillful sailors”

Heck no they don’t. I was talking to a client recently that had lost her mum- and we basically got onto the topic of these dark times bettering us(eventually). Going through these horrible and tragic times and making us better people in the long run. There is so much truth and benefit to this even when we generally don’t realize at the time. When these unexpected, tough times happen; 9 times out of 10 we grow from them. And that results in being able to comfort other humans when they are experiencing something we have previously experienced- which is a beautiful thing in itself. What a wonderful skill to know fully(debatable) how the person talking to you is feeling. Light at the end of the tunnel, if you are going through something tricky right now, you’ll most likely really help out a friend of yours one day… πŸ™‚

To a wonderful first week of March x

6 Tips for your early 20’s

  1. Relocate to the other side of the world

This is something I did when I was 20. Flew solo to Canada with a two year visa in hand and everything I owned in a pack- and its still one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I learned how to be independent and rely solely on myself. I learned that I could live off literally no money(but still had money to take a trip every couple months and party a few nights a week… how?!) I learned to put myself out there and start a conversation first because well- what do we have to lose right? And it also taught me how lucky I am to have the family I have. The distance definitely made me appreciate them more, which I needed at that time in my life. ‘Distance makes the heart grow fonder’. I am a firm believer that age is just a number BUT I do think that making a move like this is easier with zero ties/responsibilities/kids/mortgages. Very do-able in your early twenties! I also met my partner overseas that I am still with today. Moving abroad changed my life in many ways πŸ™‚

2. Be a ‘yes’ person

This really can apply to anything. Say yes to taking time off work and going on that road trip. Say yes to a narcotic that you want to try. Say yes to trying a very strange food. We rarely regret saying ‘yes’. If anything as we age i think we’ll have regrets saying ‘no’ to wild and wonderful opportunities that are thrown our way.

3. Move your body

We probably over indulge in a number of guilty pleasures in our 20’s, as were still figuring out our bodies, our metabolisms are most likely at their peak and we also DGAF all that much. But MOVING whether its a workout/jog/walk/hike/swim in the ocean etc. is again something that we don’t and wont regret. As we get older our bodies tend to decline, so lets use this energy wisely now. We are so lucky to be young and healthy. Bounce and backflip around because I doubt we’ll be doing anything remotely active when we are in retirement homes.

4. Go skinny dipping

I hope that I’m skinny dipping when I’m 70. It’s thrilling and fun and feels so free! Our bodies aren’t getting any younger, so be proud of what you have now! Let yo freak flag fly.

5. Don’t overwork

I have been the queeeeen of working as little as possible the past five years. I’ve always made just enough to fund food, fun and flights. That’s all I’ve really desired up until the beautiful year of 2020, #teamnowork. But seriously- I don’t look back at my time and think ‘wow I wish I worked more’ heck no! We are going to be working all of our lives peeps. Absolutely choose exploring, meeting people, having boozy long lunches > doing overtime.

6. Tell your loved ones that you love them

We can’t tell people enough how much we love and appreciate them. The limit does not exist!(Mean girls ;). When they’re gone, holding back our words and feelings is a regret we’ll have! When you love someone shout it from the damn rOoOoOfToPs. Tell your loved ones how you feel, compliment them and hug them. There is nothing more important than human connection and letting people know they are loved. Express yo’self.

This little thing called life

Life is a wild ride. How many of us have looked up to our parents/people of age when we were younger and thought that ‘they have it all together’. Yeah right, none of us do. This seems to become so much clearer as we get older. Isn’t it funny we just assume with age we’ll ‘sort our lives out’. True to an extent, but I truly do believe we are constantly learning, growing, evolving and changing- and if we aren’t, surely we can’t be living correctly.

On the topic of age and growth, how’s the pressure as we mature? On both sexes. To buy property, have a mortgage, have a stable vehicle, be in a relationship and everything that comes with that(marriage, starting a family etc), oh and career- because every human on this earth will have the same job in the same field for 50 years… yeah right. I personally haven’t felt a crazy amount of pressure as my fam are the bee’s knees and so supportive. But I honestly dread the pressure and questions that are to come as the years pass. The pressure on women especially- to start a family before 30. In my mind 30 is SO YOUNG. 30 years of living(fingers crossed) isn’t even half of our lives!

When I think of purpose, being a mum really isn’t something that springs to mind. Mum’s are EASILY some of the most caring, unselfish, protective and nurturing people on earth; and they do such an unreal job. But I don’t think that is the only reason most females are earthbound. I do see the appeal, but I agree with most women that it ‘comes with age’. It takes so bloody long to figure ourselves out let alone understand our moral compass and values to want to pass on to tiny humans. But then again, when are we ever ready? When is the right time? At what ripe age will we ‘figure ourselves out’? Will we ever? Probably not, and that’s okay. We’re human. And figuring our shit out is all part of this journey.

I’ve found myself reconsidering the questions I ask people when I first meet them. ‘What do you do for work?’ is something that simply doesn’t matter all that much. This is generally something I’ll ask later on in the conversation if it comes up. I feel as though it can make us uncomfortable. Why is that? Why can we feel so un-proud when answering this? As if we were to think the person receiving the answer is about to stereotype or judge. When most of us love/have passion and experience/are really good at what we do! It’s mind boggling! I very rarely see people answer this question with confidence, myself included. I think we all need to change our perspective(+ how we answer this!) just slightly. We should be PROUD of our achievements! And work is one of them lol.

15 or 55, none of us have it entirely together + we can all learn something from one another. Lets reword the questions we ask.

DEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEP but food for thought. Could I have put any more question marks throughout this blog? Hehe. Have a lovely Thursday!